survival toolkit

This toolkit will hasten your recovery when a bad event, or bad days, or unexpected problems happen - and they will. These are a few things I have learned over the years to hasten my recovery emotionally and physically when I get hijacked.

Awareness and Self-Talk

Be honest with yourself, either you can honestly say I can manage this, or I need to dig a bit deeper and take some proactive steps to move forward. OK admit it, maybe I need some help.

Processing

Get a “setback friend” or more than one if you can. Speak openly to a designated person who is a GOOD LISTENER and not readily advice-giving (unless they ask first or you ask for it). Express your feelings openly knowing there will not be any judgement. At this stage you can welcome some direct feedback but it is not always necessary.

Self-Care + Self-Compassion

This begins at home. Pre-prepare a list of activities that will support you when you arrive at home and feel disconnected and just want to ruminate, and watch Netflix. Instead, speak to your setback friend, exercise, journal, yoga – do whatever you need to do to get yourself off your mind. This is important and hard to do at first.

Silver Lining

This stage happens with the passage of some time. Find the silver lining from the experience and use it to grow. You may discover the ‘gifts’ of new learning, new skills, new relationships – and always more wisdom. If you can learn to shorten your regular emotional hijack from 5 days to 2 days then that is a major success. And with each bad event you will remember that this too shall pass.

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